Is Marriage Important? Prof. George Vithoulkas on Love, Completeness & Modern Society
This is a subject I could talk about for hours to give it the depth it deserves. It is a profoundly serious issue for our societies today. Frankly, the current trends are not a good sign for humanity’s future.
You may wonder why I say this.
The Human Condition: Born in Isolation
We come into this world alone as individuals. Yet, we never feel truly complete. We lack that absolute fullness of energy, love, and positive feelings that create genuine happiness. This sense of incompleteness persists regardless of marital or partnership status.
Through decades of listening to people’s life stories, I have reached a clear conclusion. The innate isolation of our birth can be counteracted by one thing: a true companion. However, for this to happen, specific conditions must be met.
The Parameters of True Connection: Erotic Love vs. Sexuality
What truly connects two people are erotic feelings, which are distinct from mere sexual attraction. Genuine connection is built on love, admiration, and deep appreciation for another person. It requires complete trust and the free giving of one’s adoration.
To feel complete, you need to fall in love authentically—not based on physical attraction alone. Physicality has its place, but today, it has usurped the role of genuine erotic and romantic feelings. These deeper feelings allow two personalities to merge completely, which is only possible when the ego recedes to a secondary place.
The Modern Failure and The Search for Substitutes
When this search for a companion and a complete erotic life fails—often leading to divorce—people seek substitutes. They ask: “What will relieve my misery, depression, and loneliness?”
The search leads them down various paths:
- Psychologists
- Gurus
- Yoga practices
- Meditation techniques
These are all replacements for the innate human capacity to fall in love—a gift we have largely lost.
Why Is Authentic Connection So Rare?
Why does this deep, complete connection happen so seldom? Globally, very few couples experience a full union emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Most are caught in a cycle of seeking change and new experiences, chasing ideas and social functions to fill their inner void.
The young generation today is trapped in this search. They seek to escape suffering while maximizing pleasure, often following paths that lead to lifelong unhappiness. Many declare, “I will not marry,” because they have never tasted the bliss of true completeness that comes from a understanding partner.
The Crucial Mistake: Logic Over Magic
A fundamental error today is choosing a partner logically—evaluating their job, stability, or history. Once this calculation begins, especially around trust, the magic is lost. The profound, risky act of falling in love—which allows one to say, “I would sacrifice for you”—is the only force that can solve our existential isolation.
Young people often do not wait for maturity. They engage physically early, with a disposable mindset: “I’ll try this, then move on.” This pattern prevents them from ever allowing themselves to fall deeply in love with the right person.
The Foundation: Health and Recognition
Finding the right partner is rare. It sometimes happens in an instant of deep recognition—a “crazy” certainty that this is your other half. In spiritual terms, this is uniting with one’s “deep hole” to fulfill a shared purpose. Such couples generate excess love to give to society.
The capacity for this connection is rooted in health—not just physical, but mental, emotional, and spiritual. Healthy individuals from loving unions are more likely to recognize and attract a suitable partner.
Societal Sabotage and The Path Forward
Our current society actively works against this. The young generation is exposed to atrocities, aggression, and a culture of disposable relationships. They are raised on music that stimulates only the lowest frequencies and base instincts—a constant “bum, bum, bum” that drives them toward superficiality.
True change will come only after humanity experiences the futility of its current path of hatred and superficiality. Societies will reorganize when they understand that present relations lead only to destruction and suffering.
A Final Word of Advice
My core advice to the young generation is to wait. Wait until you are mature—19, 20, 21—before seriously seeking a life partner. Do not confuse childhood infatuations with the foundation for a lifelong bond.
I hope these thoughts serve as a crucial hint for deep reflection. The quality of our future depends on rediscovering the courage to love completely.
Thank you.
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